We tend to focus only on the last part of Proverbs 31 when we describe a virtuous woman. That virtuous description focuses on the practical aspects of life, such as providing clothing for her family, preparing meals, and even buying and selling real estate. This attribution is because “She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness” (vs. 27).

She can do this because she understands this reality of life: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised” (vs. 30). This kind of woman doesn’t waste time trying to preserve the illusion of her youth. She moves on to something more important.

The first part, chapter 31, begins with something else, something not so domestic-sounding. She begins by warning her son about the dangers of a life of lust and addiction. After a detailed warning of such follies, she then told her son, “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice” (Proverbs 31:8-9). These words from his mother required courage to speak out in public about any injustice. This woman was not the kind of woman who remains silent in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant.

The combination of what it takes to run a household, speak to her children about the realities of a wasted life, and have the courage to speak out publicly about injustice is what makes Proverbs 31 the description of a complete woman.

That kind of woman will be described by her family in this way: “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her. There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” (vs. 28:29). That evidence and its praise is what it means to be a complete woman.