Recently, I read a
response to something I had written on one of my social media accounts. The response was a bit edgy and
confronting. When I read the persons
comment (I don’t know them), I realized their response revealed a lack of
understanding of the subject I had addressed.
We all miss it from time to time.
I know I have.
response was crafted as a question. I really wanted to throw in my two cents
and simply answer with a loud and visible, “Yes!!!” But I didn’t.
I did not respond for a few reasons. One of the reasons why I didn’t respond is that
many times people will write or say something in the heat of the moment. By the time they hit the “post” button it is
too late because their response is out there for the whole world to see. Later,
when they revisit their remark they realize they might have missed it. At that
point, if they have to wade through my public correction, I might lose a chance
to be part of their life in a future discussion. We all need mercy – even our
In some ways we
have become an overly corrective social media culture. We pull the trigger quickly in our
disagreements and blow away some relationships before they have a chance to
begin. We forget that a small measure of patience and a prayerful pause can
provide an open a door between two people for a private discussion that could
lead to a future relationship. Some of
the friends I have today were once my most vocal critics. I loved and honored
them in their criticism and eventually they discovered my heart and I
Today, when you
read something that strikes a nerve take a moment and ask yourself why your nerve
is exposed in the first place. The
discovery of the answer to that question will reap a greater harvest than
trying to manage the life of another person.